Destiny? Or something else?


Meant to Be?

Is what we are supposed to do with our lives written in the stars?  Is our life path predetermined?  When I was growing up I would get the girlie magazines and read my horoscope religiously, blaming the negative on the starts and proclaiming the positive as my destiny!  As I got older, I realised that basing any important decisions in my life on these words wasn’t helpful, and waiting for my destiny to arrive left me waiting a long time.

Don’t get me wrong, there are things that have happened in my life that have been strange coincidences and accidental occurances, but nothing that I would call destiny.

Life has a lovely habit of being like a rollercoaster!  There are some incredible ups where we feel on top of the world, downs where we feel so low that its difficult to see a way out, and periods when we are moving steadily along.  But its how we react to those things that gets us through.

Things Happen for a Reason?

Do things happen for a reason?  I’m not sure if they do….

Whenever I haven’t got a job, or missed out on something like the house I wanted, I have always said ‘Oh well, things happen for a reason!’  Life is full of disappointments and failures but it is how we deal with them that keeps us moving forward.  I think that by saying the immortal words above after a failure, we are actually dealing with those failures with a positive mindset, seeing them as stepping stones to something better.

Yes we can acknowledge that we perhaps weren’t the best candidate for the job, or we were unsuccessful because of someone or something better, but by reflecting on how to develop ourselves or do something different, we can ultimately lead ourselves to success.

 “Onwards and upwards!”

Having a positive mindset, for me has been the key to not being discouraged when I have failed – and I have failed a lot!  I firmly believe that if I can visualise what I want and I truly commit with hard work sheer grit, I will get there.

If I give up because its too hard, or I haven’t got time, then it wasn’t really important to me anyway.  I am in charge of my own destiny and I like to think of it more like a destination.  I have taken the long way round, and maybe stopped off too long in some places, but eventually I will get to where I want to be.

Anyone who has achieved anything truly amazing has arrived at their end goal, not because they are perfectly brilliant, but because they have learnt from failure and grown and developed as a result.  They might have moaned or complained but they have not given up.

“Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm”

Winston Churchill

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