I have to admit I am a worrier. There are so many things in life that keep us awake at night. We worry about work, our families, money, our health and weight and about where we are going to go next. How on earth can we possibly get a decent night’s sleep when all of this is swirling around in our heads?
Lately, in my quest to make major life changes I have discovered something. For years I have been largely living for the future: When this happens, when I do this, when I go there….. By focusing on the future and waiting for the next thing, I am actually missing out on the present! We can make ourselves truly miserable by waiting for things to get better instead of taking action in the moment to change things.
I used to think this saying was a bit twee, but it is true – ‘The present really is a gift!’
I have wasted too much time dwelling on past mistakes and thinking about what is going to happen in the future, that sometimes I have forgotten about the present. We have absolutely no idea what is around the corner and there are so many things in life that we cannot control – so why are we trying to?
Another thing I have been more conscious of recently, is being grateful. We tend to focus on all of the negatives – things we’re not doing or things we haven’t got, rather than appreciate what we already have. Being happy can only come from ourselves, not by gaining ‘stuff’. We have so much, but sometimes we feel that it isn’t enough, that we are not enough.
I have said before that I wasn’t sure about destiny, but I think I’ve changed my mind. We can attract all of the things we want and achieve our dreams, but we have to change the way we think about them.
The dreams and desires we have will not just fall upon us, we have to think positively and take action towards making them happen. Things do happen for a reason and if we are positive and take care of ourselves, and others, good things will come.
If we spend our time focusing on the negatives and moaning, nothing will change. We need to live in the here and now, appreciate all that we have.
If we really want things to happen, we need to be clear about what we want and take small daily steps to achieving it. Rome certainly wasn’t built in a day and neither will any dream. Focus on what you need to do today to move forward, don’t wait until tomorrow.
What small thing can you do today to move yourself forward?